OK, so the Craunlets are pretty much miles beyond the age for naptime. It's true. And I agree. That said, every day that they are not at school, they still go up to their rooms for a two hour rest time. Yep. That's every Saturday, and every Sunday. Sure, we make exceptions. But for the most part, any afternoon they are home, they have two hours of independently structured time. Even Christmas break.
In fact, they are upstairs right now as I clack away here.
Why?
It's a crazy normal thing in this house. It's a habit, a familiar rhythm. Long-established since they were both babes, and actually slept those hours away. Though they stopped sleeping during their afternoon naps, we've found that it still works magically for all of us. Like a daily reset, I've always argued. [Selfishly? Maybe a touch...]
And then something completely amazing happened. It was a seemingly small and quiet conversation with Isabella the other evening, while sitting on the edge of her bed together. She looked up at her vintage ceramic ice cream cone wind chime and she smiled. She paused a moment in her monologue discussion to me about how she had employed that afternoon's independent time.
Listing away, she interrupted herself. And then it happened. She explained that often she spends the last half hour or so lying on her bed, looking up at the ice cream cones. Then she confided; That's when I get a lot of my ideas. No more words. Not a huge sharer–always keeping her thoughts tucked away, hidden–she often speaks in little mysterious quips like these. Then, she shot her telling eyes fiercely towards mine with a certain confident look that said: you know exactly what I mean, without a single audible syllable. She smiled again, with ferocity, and skipped from the room.
I don't feel guilty that I need a quiet afternoon. That sometimes I need to get work done. And other days I need a coffee, or I'm eager to try out a new and complicated recipe for dinner that will take my full attention. Often, I surprise the Craunlets with a delicious baked good, or a cooling loaf of homemade bread.
What delighted me about this conversation though, was how this has trickled down. There is always tangible fruit to be had and shared when they come down those stairs. And like a daily harvest, we all come back together to enjoy what we have each reaped.
All of us, refreshed, and re-charged with our good ideas.